Tips on love and dating

22-Jul-2017 02:36

But I've seen miracles happen when people work at this...

everything from relationships, career, raising kids, running a home, becomes more joyous.

-- but it's like compound interest: the more you have the more you get. As Emily Dickinson wrote, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience." The most important piece of love advice I ever got was this: "Treat yourself like a prize." The strange part is: I can no longer remember who first passed on the wisdom.

(In my mind, it's some sexy woman-of-a-certain age with five ex-husbands, smoking a Virginia Slim 100.) But the real identity is lost to me.

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This advice has helped me realize that if I fight with my husband, getting in little digs doesn't matter, because it hurts us both.Most of us, at some point in our lives, have heard a great piece of advice about love.Perhaps it's something from your mother or father, a grandparent, a mentor, a friend, something you've read -- a piece of advice that has stayed with you and has helped you in finding love, understanding love or staying in love.In the hetero world, this means letting the guy pursue you.Which is to say, not calling too much or being too accommodating to his needs.

This advice has helped me realize that if I fight with my husband, getting in little digs doesn't matter, because it hurts us both.Most of us, at some point in our lives, have heard a great piece of advice about love.Perhaps it's something from your mother or father, a grandparent, a mentor, a friend, something you've read -- a piece of advice that has stayed with you and has helped you in finding love, understanding love or staying in love.In the hetero world, this means letting the guy pursue you.Which is to say, not calling too much or being too accommodating to his needs.My mother, Ingrid Teichner, always said "to love is to be happy with.". That is my advice to myself in midlife, seeking love.